Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.
“One way to practice kindness is by being generous about your partner’s intentions. From the research of the Gottmans, we know that disasters see negativity in their relationship even when it is not there. An angry wife may assume, for example, that when her husband left the toilet seat up, he was deliberately trying to annoy her. But he may have just absent-mindedly forgotten to put the seat down.
Or say a wife is running late to dinner (again), and the husband assumes that she doesn’t value him enough to show up to their date on time after he took the trouble to make a reservation and leave work early so that they could spend a romantic evening together. But it turns out that the wife was running late because she stopped by a store to pick him up a gift for their special night out. Imagine her joining him for dinner, excited to deliver her gift, only to realize that he’s in a sour mood because he misinterpreted what was motivating her behavior. The ability to interpret your partner’s actions and intentions charitably can soften the sharp edge of conflict.”
I love being married. Marriage is hard work.
Hello all !
Today is Tuesday and the stunning weather we’ve been having is taking a little break, probably going home to California to visit its father the Sun. But some shade and coolness is welcome after the delicious heat of summer, and also makes biking (!!) so. much. fun.
Here are some cool things to give you inspiration/giggles/deep thoughts/even love for Meryl Streep.
FYI: lots of Neil Gaiman love here.
Meryl Streep on Beauty:
I don’t think there is such a thing as a bad book for children […] It’s tosh. It’s snobbery and it’s foolishness. There are no bad authors for children, that children like and want to read and seek out, because every child is different. They can find the stories they need to, and they bring themselves to stories. A hackneyed, worn-out idea isn’t hackneyed and worn out to them. This is the first time the child has encountered it. Do not discourage children from reading because you feel they are reading the wrong thing. Fiction you do not like is a route to other books you may prefer. And not everyone has the same taste as you.
“At that point, in that place, all books were illegal, and she got hold of a black market copy of Gone With The Wind in Polish translation. Every night, she would stay up late, reading it. And every morning, the girls would ask her what had happened in the part she had read that night. She couldn’t bring the book itself in, because that would have been too dangerous - it had to be kept out of sight. But every day, she risked her life to tell them stories.”
“I thought, ‘This changes everything’. People who write fiction, like me, get a lot of stick for escapism. But this isn’t escapism - it’s escape. She got out - and took those girls with her. For that hour, they couldn’t keep them in the ghetto.”
The first time I watched this movie, I was barely 5 years old, still running around in my drawers in our modest little home, sweating in the humidity of Thailand. After that, I fell asleep to the tape recording of this story every single night and listened to it on the way to school.
In college, Miyazaki (finally) became popular in the States, and I relived my childhood memories again, taking joy in all the wonder and the mouth-watering depictions of food.
Now I’m in my mid-twenties, married and living (trying) like an a-dult in NY. Between doing my nails and watching Argentina & Iran duke it out, I felt the sudden urge to watch Kiki and her adventures all over again. A few things:
Oh Kiki. You and your hot cakes are the best.
I really wanted to share this gorgeous dress I found by All Saints.
Sierra Dress ($305)
The silhouette and layering is stunning.
Now I just have to patiently wait for it to not be so $$.
The Afia Dress (now $134)
This is on sale. AH!
When it comes to work apparel, I have a routine uniform that I cycle through: black pants, ten different tops. It is time to change up my arsenal though, and I’ve been loving Everlane's simple and classic collection.
The Long Sleeve ($55)
The Silk Sleeveless ($65)
The Silk Round Collar ($78)
The Silk Point Collar ($78)
Bravo Everlane! Beautiful basics indeed.
With the arrival of my new laptop (thank you S!!) and upcoming travel plans, I would like to add this baby to my collection too. (Also from Everlane!)
The Twill Snap Backpack in Reverse Denim ($65)
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